Just wanted to post the quite frankly FREAKING AWESOME photos from the team at Blast Photography who's Photo Booth was a barrel of laughs at Plus London. You can get a good look at the skirt I made as well, the hem came down by the end of the night and the stitching wasn't great but I'm still pretty proud of it. I'm wearing it with the crop top from OneOneThree.
I just love having my photo taken, and if it includes props that's even better!!!
|I was a very bad blogger and took NO photos, this ones courtesy of Sam|
I woke up feeling a bit worse for wear but with a definite sense of well-being thanks to knowing that the day aheads events were going to be brilliant, after breakfast at The Diner me and Cynthia got a bit lost in Soho so had to hot-foot it to the venue just in time to catch the last half hour of the panel discussion on fat sexuality with Dr Charlotte Cooper, Dr Caroline Waters and Gina Warren of Fatfitfine. I wish I was there for all of it because discussions like that are super important. I didn't have the spoons to speak up on the actual day but a comment Dr Caroline made about the prevalence of the involvement of food in fat sex spoke to me, she made reference to the sploshing fetish of which I have been involved in with my partner, its not something I talk about openly very often as with a lot of fetishes anything but vanilla sex can be seen as 'weird'. I felt that even though it was a simple comment, the idea of it was misrepresented due to maybe a lack of knowledge on what some people in the fetish get out of it. I think the common representation is that its people who like to have sex with food, and that can be the case but that isn't sploshing, thats know as food play. In general people who engage in the activity don't consider the substances they are using as food, custard/cream/beans are very popular not for their tastes but the texture, look and general wet and messy-ness. In my experience the splosh community is actually a very inclusive space where all body types can be involved and being a fat splosher is no different to a thin splosher because ultimately its about appreciating a body getting covered in wet and messy substances. I struggle with the connotations it can throw out and unfortunately its observations like Dr Caroline's that often force me to keep quiet about our participation in the fetish. I agree that the representation of fat sexuality often has a tendency towards the outrageous, fat women chomping on cupcakes whilst riding their partner etc. and stuff like that can be damaging, but I disagreed with sploshing being the example in this case.
Now that I've got off that soap box I'll step back up onto another one, the rest of the day went amazing despite there being a distinct lack of the previous days attendance, something that Bethany has remarked on, also explaining why I think it was an awful shame that a lot of people missed out on the events of Sunday. I'm guilty of getting caught up in the brand collaboration part of blogging, when I check my inbox and see a few emails from people saying they like my blog and they'd like to offer me something free the natural peacock within me beams with pride and gushes all over the brand, but I'm trying my best now to learn to say no to things that just don't fit with my personal style or ethos. The first was declining my invitation to the evening with Gok Wan hosted by Simply Be, I dislike his 'TV Friendly' version of body acceptance which is too focused on control for my liking. Now I'll hold my hands up and say that I accepted some of the lingerie from his line a few months ago but also wrote about my objections to the idea of shape-wear within the post. I'm hoping to move towards combining the political and the fashion parts of the 'fatshion' blogger community, because the radical foundations of the community we are all a part of are ultimately what I think are most important. We've made great advancements in the fashion world and I have an enormous sense of pride to of been involved in helping normalise the idea that fat people can dress stylishly, but I'd love to try and entwine that back in with notions of body acceptance. The Yorkshire Rad Fat Collective is one of the best things I have gained out of getting into the plus-size blogosphere, the events that have been organised through that have been empowering because sitting down and talking about our journeys and our experiences is an excellent way to work towards a common goal, learning to love our bodies in a world that tells us we shouldn't. The weigh-in we had in Leeds a few weekends ago was amazing as was the clothes swaps, the swimming trips and the shopping trips we've participated in together and none of those involved sponsorships. Ultimately I'd like to see a shift towards everyone forming a more cohesive sense of community, instead of pitting ourselves against each other to get to that invitation to a champagne reception or that must-have dress. Lauren's chat about her blogging journey cemented the idea that every one of us has lived through similar experiences so why aren't we using that?
As a final note, I really want to thank the organisers of Plus London for putting on such a brilliant, varied event. I'm going to sign myself up to the yoga classes I'd been putting off for so long because after the session we had on Sunday I came away with a lot more faith in my body, and that's something I'd choose over a pretty dress any day.